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It sounds like you bit off a bit more than you can chew, so to speak, when applying to a fitness company which promotes a healthy lifestyle. Sounds like these people take it SERIOUSLY. While there is no excuse for insulting you in the workplace for anything like this and they're a bit over the line in my opinion, in this case it sounds like everyone does one thing and you're doing something else that they don't approve of. Normally I would say to raise this issue with HR because you're being bullied, but based on the way you've presented the issue, it sounds like a company culture thing, and you're just too far outside the culture. Meaning, you should start bringing plain boiled chicken or protein shakes for lunch, and bring veggies as party snacks, or this will continue.

EDIT: As for whether these sorts of pressures are normal, absolutely they are not. However, if literally everyone in the company, all the way from the lowest level to the CEO all does things one way, and you're the only person who doesn't, this is what happens. Not saying it's OK, but this organization sounds more like a cult than a company, and that's how cults do things.

This sounds like blatant workplace bullying.

Forget for a moment that this is a fitness company, and just take all the affront's you've had to suffer.

• People make comments about how I'm ruining my "macros"


• There's also wildly snide remarks about some sort of syrup in my soda


• I brought some Cheetos to a office party, to find out that everyone brought veg places and proceeded to dump the Cheetos away was mocking it.

Recently, I've been trying to acclimate to these changes and so far nothing else has happened, but I find it "different" from my normal lifestyle. I want to know if that these social pressures are normal and if it's reasonable for me try to fit in?

Changing to fit in might cure the symptoms, but it won't cure the disease. This is essentially mobbing behavior and "othering" anyone who doesn't conform to their corporate culture in a very nasty way.

Start floating your resume. It has been my experience that once you have been "othered", you are not likely to ever fully fit in with the group, and even if you try to conform, they will find other excuses to engage in shaming behavior.

You don't need to put up with this abusive behavior. Be ready to move on if the behavior continues towards yourself, or anyone else.

What you're describing is far from normal in general - you might see one or two "healthy eating zealots" in a company - but obviously they are easier to ignore.

The situation you find yourself probably has it's roots in the company being as you put it a "fitness company" and that perhaps a higher proportion of people who are going to be that way inclined. They probably aren't all zealots to that degree - but if there's enough of them it can become the dominant culture.

I'm not going to excuse their behavior - it's bullying and unacceptable IMHO, your dietary choices are none of their business and frankly they should shut the hell up. Unfortunately it sounds as if this culture is quite entrenched in this particular company so I think from a practical point of view trying to change or eliminate it yourself is going to be nigh on impossible.

So what to do?

It depends on how much it's affecting you really - you could just ignore them, do your work and refuse to engage. Eat what you want and to hell with them. On the other hand if it's really bothering you then you might have to look at polishing the CV and finding another company, it's not right, it's not fair but sometimes you just have to pick your battles.

That said you mention that the promotion of a healthy lifestyle was one of the things that attracted you to the company - if you want to change your diet for you, not to "fit in" or any such peer-pressure rubbish but because it's something you want to do anyway then I'd suggest seeking out a co-worker who you have something of a rapport with and hasn't caused any of these incidents and asking them if they would mind giving you some tips for eating healthier.

But (and I know I'm repeating myself here) only consider doing so if it's because you want to make a change for you. If you're happy with your diet/lifestyle then more power to you! No-one should feel pressured to change something like this because of childish bullies.

Good luck!

PS: To help you decipher some of their cryptic references:

"macros" probably refers to "macro-nutrients" e.g. Carbohydrate, Protein and Fat
"some sort of syrup in my soda" probably refers to High Fructose Corn Syrup, a syrup used to provide the sweetness in many US sodas.

I was going to comment that the behaviour seems strange, like it was some sort of cult, but then I saw it was a fitness company.

I'm going to be honest with you, if you do decide to attempt to fit-in, it will take some work. To the point where it may be a significant lifestyle change, and not just at-work behaviour. You've already identified this.

The company says that it promotes a healthy lifestyle, and it seems that many of the employees, at least the ones in your team, take that to heart.

I'm inclined to say that it would be rather difficult for you to "fit in". If you really want to work there, and are not inclined to work to fit in, you can simply ride it out and they will get used to you. They will eventually get used to your eating habits. Do you otherwise have much in common with these people?

It's really a question for you and what your priorities are. It sounds like you travelled quite a way to find a job, so I wouldn't throw that all away because of a few snide remarks. Is the work enjoyable?

It's natural to want to fit in, but in this instance it may require more work than you are prepared to do.

If you do decide to give it a go, good luck!

There is a certain kind of classism in US society around food. And it may help to understand it.

First, there are two terms you might be confused by:

• "Macros" refers to carbohydrate/fat/protein balance.




• The "Syrup" is corn syrup. US agricultural subsidies resulted in dirt cheap corn-based sweet syrup. It is commonly used in sweet drinks.

In the USA, there is a sigma associated with "junk food" and a class-connection with eating "health food". Health food in general requires more work (to prepare, keep fresh) and costs more than "junk food".

The current fad in high social status food is lean protean and avoiding carbohydrates. There is also an entire movement against consuming high fructose corn syrup; not only because it is a sugar, and a carbohydrate, but also because of the usual chemical-fear. (Secondary effects include that it doesn't taste as good).

Your choice of food -- cheetos, freezer meals of medium-processed food, sodas -- are lower status food. Their choice of food -- lean chicken, protein shakes, veggie trays -- are higher status food. Their behavior can be modelled as similar to someone making fun of someone for having the wrong brand name on their clothing.

At the same time, "healthy eating" (high status food) is aligned with virtue, so they can both be snobbish about it and feel virtuous while doing so.

There may also be some parts of where their diet actually is healthier for them than yours is for you, but that generally isn't why people are making fun of you over it.

By far the easiest way to solve your problem is to fit in. Actually changing company culture is going to be difficult. Your "class" (in the sense of "protected class" in US law) isn't a clearly protected one in the USA, so there is no practical legal protection against being discriminated on the basis of having different dietary preferences.

It may help to treat it as a performance to avoid having to deal with harrassment at work. Failing that, consider moving on to another company; this kind of extreme embracing of "healthy eating" is not typical.

They are a bad cultural fit for you

Do you have a right to work in any company? Ideally yes, but in actual practice, it can get a little weird. I wish it were not so, but the fact is, "cultural fit" is a real thing which exists.

CRA of 1964 Title VII outlaws firing someone for bad cultural fit on the basis of race, color, national origin, gender or religion. Other laws outlaw it for age, sexual origin, gender identity, or disability. But that's about it.

You have the kind of "cultural fit" problem that is not protected. Same as if you were a black-tie IBM guy at Blizzard Entertainment. Health is the company's mission and your evident lifestyle does not map to that mission.

Several times, you have inadvertently "hung a lampshade on" what a misfit you are to the company's culture. Their questioning your eating is really them questioning what actually motivates you to work here instead of 1000 other places you could get a paycheck.

It is also an attempt to enroll you into the lifestyle, to see if you want to be part of the company culture. (it's ham-handed of course; humans are like that.) They're waiting to see if you've enrolled: if you start showing a passion for health, that will increase your social standing and prove this isn't just a paycheck to you.

I suppose you could try to turn this into a legal fight, but it'd be an uphill fight to say they discriminated against you by prodding you to eat healthy :)

Wise man said, "Do you really want to die on that hill? AKA "choose your fights carefully".

... which is odd because you say you want that

company looked amazing as they promote a healthy lifestyle in the workplace.

comments about how I'm ruining my "macros"... snide remarks... dump the Cheetos

Um ...

What exactly were you imagining when you heard "promote a healthy lifestyle"?

You do realize: Bad eating habits are tough to break. It's not that different from an alcohol or smoking addiction, with some of the same underlying drives. They've helped each other break bad eating habits, and they know how tough it is. It's not done lightly or gently. Mutual support is what keeps them on their path.

You came here for exactly this kind of prodding. Here it is.

Part of their resentment is you're tempting them

Does a health nut want a Chee-to? Does a diabetic want a slice of chocolate cake? Oh, you betcha!

But they can't, and also keep their health lifestyle. We've had other questions on here about "I like to bring treats some coworkers can't [won't, for reasons] eat"... you're bringing snacks most coworkers can't eat.

If you want to be part of this lifestyle, participate

Really, this is a checkpoint: "Am I really up for this?"

If you want to improve your lifestyle but not if it means giving up your corn-sweetener sodas and carby fatty freezer-section food, then they are not a good cultural match and it's time to move on.

If you really want to use the shared culture of this company to improve your lifestyle, (again, this is what you said), then go all-in. In the future when they rib you, say "thanks for reminding me" or "I didn't know. What can you tell me?"

You don't need to eat boiled chicken or shakes, that's just lazy cooking on their parts. Spices are your friend, and add virtually no calories. And make the most of any food traditions from your home country. They're having boiled chicken, you're having blackened chicken - you can turn yourself into the envy of the breakroom.

It's not normal but could be expected that they're passionate about a healthy lifestyle.

Next time you should ask why food X is bad and then ask what they suggest as substitute.

This has multiple effects.

• Some might shut up




• most likely though they'll enthusiastically explain to you why, what and how



• You have free bonding time with your colleagues


• You might learn something


• They got it out of their system and might bother you less frequently


• You might start getting into healthier habits yourself

You also could of course instead (or on top) tell them, yeah you know your food is unhealthy but you just love it too much, that you appreciate their concerns but ask them not to bother you with that anymore.

FUN FACT:

Soda Is made of water,carbon dioxide(for fizz) and a sugary syrup with mostly artificial ingredients (some which might or might not cause cancer or other alleged,so far mostly unproven issues) for the taste...yummy...

There was a court case in my country. A woman applied for a job (I believe in marketing or business dev) with a fitness/ sports company. She was rejected with a justification she was obese and because of being obese she didn't "look the part". She went to court. And lost.

I found the court's decision shocking until I got some work experience in different places. In all of them, there was something you can call culture and you were expected to follow it or get ostracised.

There were more cases of people who applied for jobs with religious organizations without being part of the respective churches. Also here the court decision was: normally you can't reject candidates based on their religious beliefs unless it's about a church-affiliated organization (NGO, hospital, etc.).

In case of OP: they applied for a job with a fitness company. Even if they weren't asked about it during the recruitment process, it was probably expected from them that they aren't against the company mission.

Just as you expect that people who work in poverty eradication for a charity don't think the unemployed are themselves to blame or that a tobacco lobbyist isn't against smoking, you expect an employee of a fitness company, a company that promotes healthy lifestyle in the workplace (!), to try to avoid eating and/or promoting junk food, at least in the workplace.

Yes, people should be allowed to do what they deem valid, but in practice, it doesn't work like that. The OP should change jobs if they aren't happy at the current employer. They won't be able to change the whole culture.

Learn from this experience.

The next time you look for a job, and an interviewer asks if you have any questions, you can ask about company culture. What is distinctive? Any things I should know?

I would not be comfortable with some dog-friendly employers. It depends on how many dogs are in the office, how they are controlled (or not), and how militant employees are about it. The latter is especially important in the C-suite, in my opinion.

I am writing a document about coding culture for the startup I am co-founding. I'm trying to set some things in the culture up front.

Code is read more than it is written. Write code and comments assuming your audience is a new employee who has no job experience.

We are not rabid zealots about IDE, languages, editors, etc. We would not hire someone who is - they would not be a good fit.

It's a fitness company, but from what I could see the problem is the other employees behaving. I think you have as most people that follow the mainstream not is what considered an healthy food balance, normally very high on carbohydrates like refine sugars and starchy foods.
The problem in my opinion is in the mode of snark comments you receive on what you're eating, and not giving you advice on how to improve yourself.

I think that unfortunately you are in a bad position and you are in the position of the lazy fat guy or some such. I think you should in the medium term seek a new workplace, or if it's possible for you to go to eat outside. Maybe the nice girl at the grocery store is more bell behaved...